Growing up, I suffered from low self-esteem and I was never comfortable in the skin that I was in. As a dark skinned female, many people, especially in middle school (oh how I hated middle school) teased me because of the color of my skin. The irony behind this is that those same guys who teased me and refused to date me were DARK SKINNED as well! I tried everything from making sure my hair was done to having the latest brand named clothes so the focus would be off my skin color. Now, looking back on it, it’s difficult to fathom how unappreciative I was in the body that God specifically created for me. It wasn’t until I attended an after school program called, Teen Voices (which I’ll brag about in later posts) in high school did I start to develop self-love.
According to merriam-webster.com, self love is defined as, “regard for one’s own happiness or advantage.”
Throughout high school and during my first two years of college, I’ve evolved into a self-loving young woman. I do not let what other people, especially guys, think of me define who I am. I know I am smart, beautiful, caring, talented, etc. and I refuse to let self-hating individuals bring me down and lower my self-esteem.
It took me years to develop self-love; however, there are still some days where I feel insecure or down about myself. So here are a few things I do to uplift myself:
1. Set aside at least one day a week/ month devoted to treating myself, whether it may be going to the nail salon, getting my hair done, going shopping, reading encouraging Bible verses, hanging out with friends, watching my favorite movies, etc.
2. Writing encouraging post-it notes and putting them around my room/ bathroom.
3. Spending time with my family and friends and appreciating the people in my life.
Overall, I am a big advocator of practicing self-love, especially for teens and young women. I encourage all of you to schedule that day where you can take yourself on a date. Just enjoy the person you are, flaws and all!